且信且疑: half-believing and half-doubting; between belief and doubt
且战且走: fly and fight by turns; carry on the fight while beating a retreat; fight and retire alternately; fight while falling back; retire, fighting at intervals; retreat, stopping at intervals to
Victims are helpless , at the mercy of the offender . by showing mercy to an offender , you put yourself back in control . take charge by forgiving 受害者本身是弱者，但若能得饶人处且饶人，受害者也能夺回主动，反转形势。
