Wondering about such abstruse hypotheticals like “ what kind of father would he be ? ” and “ how might he look in fifty years ? ” are really just a form of self - inflicted mental abuse 在一些深奥的假设性问题上纠缠不清,比如“他会是一个什么样的爸爸? ”还有, “他50岁时候是什么样子? ”实在是自找的精神虐待。